Ugh! Who am I? Who am I? Honestly, I don’t really know anymore!!!
Becoming a mother has not only changed my identity, but completely stripped me of the woman I used to be. I used to be athletic, beautiful, and smart. I juggled college, work, and partying like a boss. Now, every thought in my head, every moment of my day is devoted to my family. I spend my days in old worn out sweatpants, and by the time my kid is asleep, my brain is mush. I am the typical stay-at-home mom. There, I said it, I AM TYPICAL. That’s who I am. Okay? So, why then do I feel like such a misfit?
Well, I am going to point my big judgmental finger at the current atmosphere of social media. People only share what they want to share. People only post the cute pictures of their kids laughing and smiling. Nobody posts pictures of their kids having meltdowns in the middle of a grocery store while other shoppers are going out of their way to gawk at them.
Oh, and everyone on social media is sooo enlightened! They share articles telling all of us typical moms how to be a good parent and wife. There are articles telling us how wonderful our bodies are for giving birth, but I really just want to know what to do about this armpit acne that developed after this wonderful goddess gave birth.
Everything has to have a label, leaving us wondering where we fit in. I’ll never forget the first time someone asked me, “What kind of parent are you going to be?” My answer was, “A mom. Hopefully a good one.” It wasn’t until later that I learned of Puddle Jumper Parents, Helicopter Parents, and Snow Plow Parents. I have no idea which parent I am. I’m sure I fit into different categories at different times. Every kid and situation is different. Creating labels creates judgment. It creates a fake world where we are all afraid to be ourselves because we might end up falling under the wrong label.
There are a ton of inspirational mommy blogs out there spreading sunshine and unicorn farts. That’s just not me. Chances are, if you are still reading this, that’s just not you. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not all grim and gloom either. I’m simply raw and real, baring my sole and open wounds.
Alright, a little about me: Surprisingly, I love living in the Midwest and having all four seasons in their full glory. However, I do dream of moving to West Virginia. I’m more of a mountain momma than a beach bum. I prefer moonshine and whiskey over wine. My husband and I love going sled riding with our three year old daughter, Naomi. Our little family also includes a dog, a cat, and five chickens. Running, painting, gardening, writing, and watching a lot of television are my stress relievers. It’s kind of embarrassing how much I love television. My family and I recently switched to being vegan. I may share some recipes if anyone is interested. Being a Christian is a huge part of who I am, and I will not apologize for that. Well, that’s me in a nutshell. I’ll try to post something once a week, most likely on Sunday nights.
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